Advice?

I am having a difficult time focusing on my recovery today. I cried so hard for my father lastnight. It is so sad to watch him deteriorate. He has bipolar disorder, takes his meds, but he and my stepmother drink heavily each evening and it is hard to ignore.( I removed myself from a living situation with a man that wasnt good for me, and a working really hard to suck it up and stay with my father for 2 more weeks until I have enough money to get a place). I stay in my space, use my coping skills and meditate, journal, and work my program each day. When A stressful situation arises he literally freaks out (yeling at himself that he cant even wak and chew gum at the same time). He has been through major cancer, chemo, major surgery about a year ago. They lost thier house because they couldnt make the payments from his co-pays. He is retired, and has another major surgery for ahernia coming up in the beginning of march. He cant even look me in the eye when Im crying to him in a calm voice saying I dont like seeing him like this, and that I love him very much. It is so heartbreaking.( I havent been around my dad for almost 12 years, so I dont know how bad it really was until I had to stay there). Now I undersand how my dad, stepmom, mom, brother, and sister must have felt watching me destroy my life for almost 20 years by partying, going from relationship to relationship, being codependent on a man for everything, moving, not staying on meds, never completing anything I wanted to do, almost dying, and never admitting I had a problem until Jan. 23rd 2012. I know that I can't help someone who doesnt want to admit they have a problem. My entire family pretty much disowned me and barely talked to me until i admitted i needed help. Since then, things seem to be more manageable, and each day I feel stronger and detemined not to end up like him, and he says that he just wants me to have a better life than he had. I'm so happy for myself for sticking to my recovery and staying as positive as possible and praying to my higher power and beginning to letting go of all I held on to over the years, and I know my entire family will see all the hard wotk I am doing over time....I just ask any of you out there to pray for my father and stepmother that they find the serenity to accept the things they cannot change, the courage to change the things they can, and the wisdom to know the difference. thank you...