Trying to plan ahead...before disaster hits

Hi, really understand most of your problem. Came from highly abusive background, and abusive, alcoholic husband. Have thrown him out of my life,..you need to talk to a an abuse center, they will probably be abe to direct you to what you need, understanding this is a very hard step...but u deserve better.The center will more than likely help w/ your daycare problems. /But you need to reach out, glad you came here. I know I was unable to solve your problems, but am here for u. read my profile it will explain much. YOU ARE NOT ALONE...

Thanks for your response. I wasn't sure whether a counselor, interventionist, divorce lawyer or DV center was the first step....and I need take take the first step, because I know I deserve better and so do my children.

Are there any women's shelters in your area?? I know that you may not really want to go there...I wouldn't blame you. However, they could give you a safe place to be while he is forced to get out. I know that it has to go through the courts..but I also know the shelters can work together with the courts to speed up that process. They also have resources available. When I checked into it...I found that some offer financial services..they can actually get you help with certain bills..and have numbers and resources you can call for affordable childcare..at least that is the case in my area. So even if you didn't want to stay in a shelter..they have different resources available. If you can't afford counseling..here is an idea ..that I am doing now. There is a christian college in my area that offers free counseling from the graduate students..they are overseen by professors. I believe alot of colleges have similar programs...so if you can't afford counseling...try that. A counselor may be able to help you come up with a financial and emotional plan..so that you can break free of the prison you are living in. Best of luck to you!

I love that everyone is on this, excellent advice gang, so Pawn its a beginning.

Im so happy you are taking the steps to prepare to leave this guy. Fiirst off have a safe plan to leave him..a womans shelter is a great start. I stayed there for a week and had so much help. The have many great rescources and can help you make a safety plan to leave him and assist you with any help in housing etc. free counseling, advocacy for court, financail assistance if needed. You can get out and leave him behind.
Emotional abuse robs you of your worth Like its been said you may not want to stay there but would be a safe place to start and it wouldnt have to be long term butI would highly encourage you to call and take the steps to start the process of planning with them a safe way out and believe me they know how to help.
Document everything jornal ....bank records whatever you can show for proof if needed. Change your banking asap once you are ready to get out. Take photcopies of birth certificates drivers liscence ..health cards whatever importanat documents you have. trust me from once having been there the shelter will be the best place to start.

AG

Hi, just checking in to see how u are doing..Know your situation really sucks, but once in a new enviroment of your choice,you will feel a little better about your self and the childrens overall wellbeing. The advice given to you is fantastic. take the first step, we will be here for you......Good Luck....safe Hugs....

Pawn, found this on Charlies sex abuse site, not sure if you saw it, www.row-stl.org/ might be a lead in finding something/resources available in your area.